*This Ad/Profile is no longer available for contact* Phoenix AZ single mom of 1 yr old girl seeks open adoption for 1 female frozen embryo
After many years of desperately wanting a child, my sweet, beautiful daughter was born in April 2017. I adore her more than words can say. She has truly lit up my life. She is funny, feisty, healthy, smart, and loving, and every day she startles me with a new skill, makes me laugh, challenges my patience, and fills my heart with joy. She loves books, music, and balls, and her new favorite activities are dancing and doing the hand motions to "The Wheels on the Bus" and "The Itsy Bitsy Spider." I am obviously biased, by I think she's the most beautiful child in the world. :)
I am single, so my daughter was conceived with anonymous donor sperm, at the same time as the frozen embryo who is her genetic full sister. I have information about the sperm donor in his own handwriting, as well as two baby pictures of him. I chose him because he was smart and educated, we had some similarities (we both love music -- I’m a singer and he plays guitar, we both enjoy reading, hiking, running, learning new languages, camping, and travel, his mother was an English teacher, which is my former profession, and his father is a lawyer, which is my current profession), his personal and family history indicated excellent health (four living grandparents in their 80s!), and he took the time to write detailed answers to the questions in the donor questionnaire, answers that suggested to me that he is a thoughtful, caring person. He played basketball, football, and soccer, and although I’m not athletic (other than running – I’ve done a half and full marathon), my daughter is very active and loves watching sports at the park (she also inherited her donor’s strawberry blonde hair). The staff at the sperm bank described him as “an ebullient person who laughs easily.” He has a PhD in genome science, and he chose to be an “identity-release donor,” meaning that the children conceived with his sperm can learn his identity when they turn 18, in part because he believes people have a right and an emotional need to know about their genetic connections. When asked why he wanted to be a donor, he wrote, “The fact that anyone who seeks a donor will necessarily be someone who very much wants a child, and will very likely be a devoted parent to that child, played a key role, since that is exactly the kind of person who should be having children.” I couldn’t agree more.
Becoming a mother on my own -- instead of letting the opportunity slip away -- is the best decision I've ever made. But it's also very hard. I’m 39 years old, and I don't have the resources (time, money, energy, etc.) to have another baby. I want to donate my frozen embryo to a loving couple or individual who wants a baby more than anything in the world, just like I did, before I had my daughter. After doing a lot of research and soul-searching, it's important to me (and, I believe, best for your baby-to-be) that we have an open relationship. Your child and my child will be sisters, and they deserve the opportunity to know each other, to understand their genetic connections, and to have frequent contact. I would want all of us (adults and children) to consider each other extended family.
I’m looking for Arizona residents, preferably living in the Phoenix metro area, committed to staying in the area and having a lifelong relationship with me and my daughter, with visits several times a year or more. Your sexual orientation doesn’t matter to me, but you must be LGBTQ-friendly, as I am not straight, and there is a possibility your daughter will not be straight, so you should be ready to love her no matter how she identifies when she's older. Ideal recipients would be liberal and non-religious. Obviously, you should be kind, loving people. Your lifestyle should be conducive to having children -- that is, some degree of financial stability, a good measure of emotional stability, and relationship stability if there are two of you.
If this sounds like the right fit for you, I look forward to hearing from you! Either way, best of luck to you – I hope you will get to experience parenthood soon!
Preference of living distance from recipient:
Infertility diagnosis or N/A:
N/A -- My diagnosis was "no access to sperm." Lol
I had 4 unsuccessful IUIs, and then I became pregnant on my first round of IVF. I know I am very lucky, and I am so thankful.
Information about the embryo(s):
Name and city/state of clinic where embryos were created
Name or city/state of clinic/facility where embryos are stored:
Number of embryos available
Overall embryo batch quality
5 PGS tested embryos. 3 were not usable. 1 created the best baby EVER! One left -- maybe yours?
Stage when frozen
Any children resulting from this batch of embryos?
Number of children born from the fresh cycle for this batch?
Number of children born from the frozen cycle for this batch?
Any other children? (If so please explain)
Female Information: (If an egg donor was used, enter the info for the egg donor)
Was egg donor used?
Age at time of IVF cycle
I did my undergrad at NAU. I wanted to become either a high school choir director or an English teacher, and my indecision resulted in two degrees: a B.A. in music and a B.S.Ed. in English education. I taught high school English in the Gilbert district for nine years, during which time I took night classes at ASU and earned an M.A. in English literature. Then I went to Michigan Law School, earned my J.D. in 2014, did a couple of clerkships, practiced law (civil litigation) at a Phoenix law firm for two years, and am currently beginning a new job as a career law clerk for a federal judge. It’s been an adventure!
Raised Catholic, now non-religious (agnostic)
Ethnic background (eg. German, Scottish, etc.)
Polish and German
Male Information: (If a sperm donor was used, enter the info for the sperm donor)
Was sperm donor used?
Age at time of IVF cycle
B.A. in biochemistry, PhD in genome science. As of the time when he filled out the donor questionnaire, he was a post-doctoral research scientist, hoping to become a professor at one of California's prestigious research universities. He wrote that he hopes to have his own lab with freedom to pursue his own research program and is also interested in the teaching and mentoring aspects of an academic career. He added, "Of course, if I could make even one major contribution to human knowledge, that would be pretty cool as well."
Ethnic background (eg. German, Scottish, etc.)
English, Irish, German
Hobbies/Interests/Other info (Please also clarify any answers from above or include any info you would like to share)
Both genetic parents love reading and writing. I gravitate toward fiction and poetry; the genetic father reads literature, history, biography, politics, philosophy, and economics.
We're both quite bright. He was the high school salutatorian, earned a 790/800 on the SAT math section and a perfect 800 on the GRE math section. I scored in the 99th percentile on the GRE verbal section and got a perfect score on the LSAT. I attended one of the highest ranked law schools in the U.S., was on the law review, and graduated in the top 12% of the class.
Music is one of my great passions -- I've been singing in choirs since I was 12. I'm a classically trained soprano, but I love all kinds of music, including classic rock, jazz, alternative, opera, and the top hits on the radio. The genetic father learned to play guitar (inspired by his dad's love of classic rock) and can play rock, blues, country, and jazz.
One of my strongest traits is empathy, and it struck me that the genetic father listed empathy as one of his strongest traits also. I am an ENFJ. I don't know what he is, but it wouldn't surprise me to find out he's the same or similar. I'm outgoing and I'm the one in my group of friends who usually plans and/or hosts the gatherings. My friends would describe me as fun, sometimes downright silly, and a loyal, supportive friend. I'm always there for the people I love.
I was married to a woman for many years, and now I only date men. I'm not really into labels, but I suppose "bi" is the closest label for me. My main focus these days is providing a stable, happy, loving home for my little one, just the two of us, but someday I hope to remarry.
I'm sure you want to know more about me and about the genetic father, and I also want to know all about you! I look forward to meeting you in person!
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